MEET THE MAENAD’s POLYFAM

 Sometimes just sometimes, you're talking to someone, an editor someone, and they maybe mention that something you were talking about is maybe a thing they'd like to accept.

That's a fucking prompt right?  

Anyway, so that happened but it wasn't then it was but now there's no room and ...whatever.   I highly doubt I will be able to get  rid of pitch this anywhere so guess what, y'all get an essay. 

(I hate that shit by the way, but what can you do?) 

MEET THE MAENAD’s POLYFAM

Who are these daft creatures that inhabit the Maenad’s Labyrinth?

 

Osi (she/hers) – (no pic and she likes it that way)   Osi is not fond of their picture being taken at all, which I understand, once long ago I was the exact same way.   Osi is a pre/non transitioning trans girl, she is my beloved Monster and I love her more than most of the rest of you put tougher, collectively  or in aggregate.  We are very differently non NT from each other (opposition ally  in fact, they are Order I am Chaos) and we aggravate the fuck out of each other having to use stupid human speech rather than speaking the language of monsters or maenads   But when love is true you do your best.

Traditionally has not been the most supportive of my being a sex worker (Osi was not even fond of me camming when I started doing that) but has come around in recent years.   (Few have the patience to even try to out stubborn me.) 

This is probably the only time I will ever talk about them directly.  They value their privacy to precisely the depth to which I have embraced not having any privacy.   Yet we get along on this point relatively well.  Mutual respect does that.

 

Wayland –(they/theirs)  is maybe a bit uncomfortable being talked about but I made sure their boundaries are being respected.   .  Wayland and I have been through so much together (madness, death, homelessness, drugs, ohmygogodsdrugs)  we exist in this unique to poly (at least in the west) space;  we are probably best described as “post-relationship,” we haven’t been a couple in most of a decade, but we are most definitely still FAMILY.   And having been through so much shit together, we are each essential elements of our OS.  

Generally, has been much more supportive, passively, of the sex work.   (And since they work from home, well,  I’m pretty sure they are very okay with it.)

 

Ours is a family that believes in the power of quality headphones.  

Wayland has resigned themselves to being recognized to some degree in the MSG so they don’t really care about me talking about them here.  In fairness I have given them edit privilege on the final MS (whenever that is) with regard to parts that involve them.  

If you have read or heard any of the transcripts you will get why.

 

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I live with both of these people in my Labyrinth.   We do not have any kind of perfect existence.  But we support each other and are there for each other. No matter what.   At least that’s the idea.

While I am and the household is very very POLY, it doesn’t really function in any way I’ve seen or read about previously. There is very little hierarchy, we all of us really are not into hierarchy and power structures outside of kink and fiction.

The closest we have is a designation of duties but that’s more about functioning as a household rather than a family.  The closest thing we have to hierarchy is the decision on their part to appoint me “party leader.”  If you have ever played an RPG even once this will make sense to you. Maybe a lot of sense.

I do  not have what you would call a traditional primary  / secondary / etc. distinction.   Both out of lack of need, lack of want, and also there is little of the common expedient to do so.  

The closest thing I have to  a “primary relationship” is Osi, but any long term emotionally invested relationship is going to have elements of that, personally. And none of this has anything to do with who fucks who.  I have not been sexually active with Wayland in 7 or so years.  I am barely sexually active with Osi. 

Polyamory is not about the sex.   Not just anyway.  If that is all it was there would be nothing here.

 

 

Duarte (he/his)

- my little bitch.   He needs to be here with me and fulfill his role as Filthy Assistant. Duarte  Is my submissive.  Not formally/properly in the traditional sense but that’s largely a matter of logistics. They live outside Lisbon.  

in the If I had my way he’d be living with me right now 24/7 and everything would be immensely better.

I have known him since early 2017 and from the get-go we have had an instant back door into each other’s minds. 

One day Duarte  is the person that the terrorists will kidnap to get my secrets from.  He must be protected at all costs.  Mine.   (Being my submissive means get used to my being territorial with you but 99.999999999% just for play.)

This one belongs to the Maenad (and one other)

We are, very slowly, writing a long form work of erotica that is never going to be seen by another human being for being too goddam filthy;   Remember kids, Having a shared private mythology builds stronger family bonds!  (may I suggest both RPGs and Kink! As awesome tools for this endeavor, if needed)

One of the few beings in the universe capable of keeping up with me I think.  If there are ever telepaths he and I will be locked up in the first wave for being such freaks.  

They’ll just get upset when I sit on his face. Living thrones are my jam.

Duarte is my right hand, but my right hand is all the way fuck over there.  

I do love playing on Hardcore.

 

In conclusion, this is where things stand at present (early August, 2021)  For the last 8 odd years most of my sexual activity has been performative and under capitalism.  Almost all of it in fact.  As a curious data point, the recognition that that was changing me, having an effect on my .. responses, is part of what got me writing about all this in the first place.   So, once again, not for the first time nor the last, Thank You Sex Work.